Are you sacrificing who you are?


Reader,are you a Brene Brown fan?

Belonging is a theme incorporated into almost every talk I give. And this is one of my favorite quotes from Brene Brown:

“Belonging is the innate human desire to be part of something larger than us. Because this yearning is so primal, we often try to acquire it by fitting in and by seeking approval, which are not only hollow substitutes for belonging, but often barriers to it. Because true belonging only happens when we present our authentic, imperfect selves to the world, our sense of belonging can never be greater than our level of self-acceptance. We must learn to be present with people — without sacrificing who we are.

This week let's explore the #ShowUpPositive Spark -- UNCONDITIONAL.

Unconditional often forms a dynamic duo with specific words:

  • unconditional love
  • unconditional acceptance
  • unconditional forgiveness

Committing to these acts without condition elevates them to superhero status.

The beautiful twist Brene Brown gives us is that instead of offering these superpowers to others, you first offer them to yourself.

Reader, what would it mean for you to give yourself unconditional love, acceptance, and forgiveness? What conditions might you set? What self-limiting stories do you hold?

Here are some common and sneaky ones that come to mind:

  • The chaser -- the need to achieve something to fully love, accept, or forgive yourself
  • The perfectionist -- the need to perform perfectly to fully love, accept, or forgive yourself
  • The over-achiever -- the need to do more than everyone else to be worthy of love, acceptance or forgiveness

However, the most important question to ask yourself, Reader, is this: What would it take for you to believe you are worthy of unconditional love, acceptance, and forgiveness?

This week I invite you to challenge all thoughts that withhold self love, acceptance, and forgiveness.

When you make a mistake, say this: "Ahh, I am human. Humans make mistakes. This mistake doesn't define me. I have so many more examples of when I haven't made a mistake. I forgive myself."

Have an extraordinary week,

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Rita Ernst, Positivity Influencer

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